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Single in the city :The car salesman

  • Writer: Kay Darden
    Kay Darden
  • Jun 3, 2016
  • 4 min read


Met online

Talked a bit for a few weeks

Online and he asked me out for coffee and to chat more in person we hit it off very well and walked around the town square in Sugarland the conversation was nice he was easy on the eyes and had a successful career as a luxury car salesman his family was from Ghana and from the date he was attentive and kind . We went for ice cream and chatted more and he walked me to my car and kissed me the thing that did rub me the wrong way was the fact he tried to get me to follow him home and touch his junk smh . I told him about my getting to know him and trying to put the sex on the back burner since he stated this several times before us meeting that he wanted the same guess that changed when we were face to face I'm not sure . So weeks went on we barely chatted on the phone and tonight omg he pissed me off so bad I haven't been this angry with a guy since I first started this venture . I called him and he basically demanded why I hadn't seen him mind you I just got off work I told him well what did you want to do ( thought he would say a bar for drinks since it was still early ) he said a Netflix and chill night I declined and tried to explain it was too early for us to do that he then went off on me basically sounding like a hurt child not getting his way stating that we weren't compatible if I didn't want to sit on his couch and watch a movie with him . I honestly tried to explain that I wanted us to have more time to get to know each other better and then we can advance to that . And it's not that I didn't want to do this I just wanted more time to know him and not have any temptation to put me in a situation of any sort. He then really expressed his anger and demanded for me to ask him everything I needed to know to make me comfortable to where we can have dates at each other's houses (we have known each other less than a month FYI) I started asking 6 questions back to back and then he asked me to slow it down he then went on to say that everything can't go my way and it should be 50/50 and it shouldn't just be one-sided and that I can't make demands and put stipulations on not coming over his house and that we had absolutely nothing in common. I then stated if that's the only thing that you're worried about us having in common is me coming over your house and you trying to have sex with me then maybe we absolutely do not have anything in common I'm not sure why but for some strange reason I have this feeling of anger and annoyance because over the past few months the quality of men that I had come into my life have never just made me angry. Now here I was on the phone with a guy that I knew for a fact wasn't interested in getting to know me didn't want to have any sort of future with me and the only interest that he had was laying at each other's house and just having sex. At this moment I decided I didn't need to further explain myself I didn't need to waste his time nor did I want my time wasted and I simply just hung up the phone. During this time frame of me hanging up I quickly proceeded to block his number from my phone and he turned around and called me from a Google Voice line I answered it and then I quickly hung up so that I'd be able to proceed to block that number as well getting up this morning I haven't had a chance to take a look at my phone I had to handle some other things throughout the day before I went into work I did however take a peek at my spam messages because I blocked him from sending me text messages and the screenshots are below so apparently he must have gotten up this morning realized that I wasn't trying to control the situation I was just merely trying for us to take our time and actually get to know one another and it's had absolutely nothing to do with trying to make demands or make it my way only. and it seems like he's a bit Remorseful for last night's Behavior I tried to give him several opportunities to calm down to hear me out I listened to his side thoroughly but to be perfectly honest I don't think I can deal with anyone that has that type of anger and could be that controlling one thing that stuck out to me that he said was that he's always used to getting his way and he doesn't settle for no I had an ex like that once and I'm just not interested in repeating those same steps again. Also when I check the mr. Number Block app he's been reported or blocked at least 6 times by other women but the actual reports that reported kind of sort of blew my mind and really made me realize that I possibly Dodge the bullet actually there's no possibility I definitely dodged the bullet.


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