Single in the city: my weekly rant

It's not very often that I'll have one of these blogs and I can't even recall the last time I actually ranted. But today just struck a nerve with me on a few occasions so over the course of this weekend I decided that there's going to come a point maybe within the next week or two that I will go ahead and close out my Tinder account. A few factors that have come into play the slew of men that I have coming into contact with me through the app are not great so I'm just going to take a step back from it all together and place my concentrations and other things that are much more important to me than dating as of right now and possibly for the next 2 or 3 months .what actually happened this past weekend is I came into contact with at least five gentlemen 1 basically offered me oral sex, another just got out of a relationship 3 months ago when he was only in that relationship for 3 months but it sounded way way way too serious, another has only been in the country for 60 days and has a child or two in a whole other country all of which made me very uncomfortable for the simple fact that the children aren't here they are there and he's looking for love all over again so that just didn't fit very well with me. Another was mr. Car salesman has popped back up now if you recall in my last blog about him he was blocked from all communication I blocked him from calling me he then proceeded to call me from a Google Voice phone and then proceeded to call me from his work number he called me when I went to take a look at it was all well over 20 times that he called me within a 4 day rolling period .today while I was working he decided to call me on an app called WhatsApp he basically was like I miss you and I'm like oh my goodness thinking to myself that I've only met this man one time we did not have enough conversation to have it go any further and you know he stated you know I figured you were mad at me thinking back in retrospect about it I honestly wasn't upset with him I was a little taken back with the fact of his response to why I would not come over to his home his response and what he stated made me angry I was upset with the fact that he wasn't okay with me not coming over to the house cuz at the end of the day you know that's my personal decision to make.

I think sometimes as women we fail to realize we have the control we have the power to say yes on the date we have the power on whether or not we're going to allow them to get the first kiss we also have the power on whether or not we are going to be intimate with them. And just having someone who wants to control the entire situation and it not feel like an actual courtship but more so a concentration camp doesn't make them a very likable person. This was honestly the reason I STEP so far back with him in a sense of things he reminded me of one of my very controlling exes it's just a feeling if you've ever been in something toxic or if you ever been in anything where it just wasn't going well and it just wasn't meant to be for the two of you to be together you don't feel very good the feeling is awful you get this tight feeling in your chest and usually if you've learned your lesson from that relationship you realize when you come in contact with another man that's very similar if not the exact same person usually you know when to run away. That's honestly the feeling that I got about him it just wasn't a good vibe I didn't like the fact that he told me that he always gets his way and he's never told no it was something so small about sitting on your couch that he did not accept no for that and just basically got blatantly angry about it didn't sit well with me that's all end rant.