Single in the city:Does this make me look desperate *in my Kevin hart voice*

So took a faaaar step back from putting myself out there thought it would be a good idea to try some dreams and read some books currently reading the pic below and it's a for sure eye opener on owning my single lady swag and being comfortable and happy with being alone ( pssst it's actually not that bad lol) but what I don't get is what aura about me screams desperate ? Within a week I have had several men what I will call invading my space and just to put it nicely do not deserve to waft my aura smh . List as follows

1. Man very nice looking very smart hangup :looking to get married in the next 30 days for citizenship and wanted it to be me this was after 1 lunch date 😑

2. Man is 35 years old financially able to have 3 project vehicles but is saving up for a apartment oh yea did I mention he lives at home and has been for a year now ?

3.very insecure man I needed to text him all day and use all my free time to just breathe on the phone with him ( I am not exaggerating this) when I had enough he became irate and asked was I sleeping with other men 😕😒. (Fyi I am not and also this man we have never seen each other in public )

4.man has been newly single for 4 months has a very young baby under the age of 1 when the subject of intimacy was brought up he stated he was ready to move forward with his life but he had sex with his child's mother 3 weeks ago 😯 . All off that is way too much going on on top of the fact he wasn't as gainfully employed as he could be and he was living with family as well but trying to date. Also didn't seal the deal that the ex left wedding songs for their wedding 7 days prior on his fb .

Look it's this simple if you are a grown man over 30 you should not say you are looking for someone to have something serious with if you have these things going on you should just not date or just have casual sex and be honest , in the end that's all you kind of deserve (some not even that )

If you do not have your own place

If you do not have your own vehicle

You are not gainfully employed

Still married

Still living with ex

Dodging child support or anything that has to do with your child or children

Still sleeping with your ex

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