Single in the city: Number 3

So I started reading this book call Codependent no more it's apart of my list of my summer reads basically it's about being in relationships (family or lovers) and how you are dependent upon them this could be financially or emotionally and sometimes sexually. My 3 loves of my life's I was codependent with all 3 they shook me to the core so hard that I was able to force those 3 words since I'm sticking with the blog and not using names I'll number them . Number is my last love before I decided this journey of just being single and finding myself relationship wise . The story is as follows: Me meet in October 2013 online and very shortly after my horrendous breakup with number 2 I was single and happy putting the final touches on my divorce,had a fabulous apartment in a affluent area in North Carolina I was at the happiest weight of my life and I was honestly feeling pretty great . He seemed to be a put together man and in my mind a for sure step up from number 1 and number 2 . We dated for about 3 months before we decided to be in something committed. Within the first 6 months of our relationship I found that he honestly wasn't as put together as I thought . He was an alcoholic and wasn't seeking proper treatment and was just getting medication to curve cravings He made over 5k a month but had a home in foreclosure and he wasn't paying his bills When he son came over he basically slept in his room all weekend and his son pretty much took care of himself . He had mental issues and was medicated but was refusing to take the medicine on some days . Several factors caused our doomed breakup last summer but to sum it up: he felt low about himself so thus picked on me and my children and anyone in his path who he deemed not worthy to be in his presence , he also would not seek help for any of his addictions and mental illnesses and felt he was fine , he did not handle himself financially like he should as a man, and the nail in the coffin was the fact that he didn't want me working out or eating better and he reminded me about my 90 lb weight gain and told me how disgusting I was to him . I woke up one day after his rant that he decided to have after not taking his meds and said I was done. Usually when you are trying to figure why you haven't walked away from someone bad for you it's just that you aren't done/tired yet in the words of one of my very best girlfriends . When I was tired oh best believe I left sooo fast.